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Making a public vow... [Mar. 12th, 2010|08:00 pm]
Kurt Onstad
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[Current Music |The Beginning Is The End Is The Beginning - Smashing Pumpkins]

So, I've been told that I'm bad at communicating with people. And because of this, people tend to assume that I'm mad at them.

Let's get that out of the way first...I'm not mad at anyone at the moment, nor have I been in the last year or so that I can think of. I'm just uncommunicative. But, I'd like to try to do something about this view of me, and so I'm making a vow right now that I will communicate more with my friends. To that end, I will be making at least one entry per day in here for at least the next month. Now, some days that may just be the repost of my tweet(s) of the day, but some text will be appearing here every day for the next 30 days. If the first month goes well, I'll do my best to continue on...

To start this off, let's do a quick "State of the Kurt."

Currently, I'm living alone. Myra moved out in January, and then about two weeks ago, Kathy (Myra's mom, who most everyone just calls "Mom") left suddenly, as her father had a stroke, and she went down to Arizona to help out her mother. Kathy's dad has since died (not to speak ill of the dead, but as I understand it from those who knew him, no great loss...), and Kathy will be living with her mom for the foreseeable future, since Kathy's dad never let his wife learn any financial survival skills (among other reasons). This is the first time I've ever lived alone. So far it's okay, although I'm having to relearn basic skills that have atrophied while living with Mom, who pretty much insisted on taking care of all the household-type stuff.

The job situation is actually pretty good right now. After working for Harry & David during the holiday season, I finally found a permanent position in January at...a collections agency. For the first month, I was pretty miserable, calling up people and asking them to pay bills they obviously couldn't afford in the first place, and definitely couldn't afford now that interest had built up for a year and a half. Listening to the stories of these people (the few that would actually talk to you, and not just curse you out and hang up on you) was wearing me down. But, people in the break room were talking about how the administrative side of the office was short-staffed, so I took the initiative and asked to be transferred to one of the open admin positions. I was nervous about this, as they could have said "No, and since you're obviously not happy on the phone, we'll just let you go now." Fortunately, they decided to move me over, and now I have a job that is mostly data entry-esque work, and I get to listen to my iPod while I'm working! As I've said many times, as long as I have my music with me, I can do pretty much any monotonous task all day.

I still have the long term goal of opening my own comic book store, but it is definitely a long term goal at this point...Myra and I just declared bankruptcy, so all our old debts are wiped clean, but it's going to be a while before I have enough money and/or credit to even think about getting a store going.

I think that's about it for today's entry. If there's anything specific you want to know about what's going on with me, leave a comment asking, and I'll get to it down the line.

[User Picture]From: fuzzy_queen
2010-03-13 05:20 am (UTC)
Kurt I'm so glad you are doing well and have a steady job. Are you making many friends in the area? Are you still happy to be in OR?

Because of the ex-shithead and my divorce, I'm still faced with the possibility of BK, depending on what his debtors do with me. Was it hard? Do you have any advice?
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[User Picture]From: speedball
2010-03-13 05:51 am (UTC)
Friends and such: to be handled in a future LJ sometime this month.

BK: I would definitely talk to a bankruptcy attorney. The decent ones will give you a free consultation. The whole process took us a few months (but could have taken less time if we had been able to pay the whole fee upfront), but wasn't all that hard. My personal opinion, if you end up owing more than $10K, BK is probably the way to go.
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[User Picture]From: jasheffe
2010-03-13 05:48 am (UTC)
Are you seeing anyone or do I finally have a shot and should rush down to OR to put a smile on your face?
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[User Picture]From: speedball
2010-03-13 05:54 am (UTC)
Short answer: Currently not seeing anyone. Come on up, then come on down...

(There is a long answer, but it involves another person's issues, and don't think it's right to talk about in a public place)
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[User Picture]From: jasheffe
2010-03-13 05:55 am (UTC)
Come on up and then come on down...this...this is one of oh so many reason I luvre you. I'll give you a call soon.
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[User Picture]From: isle_of_woman
2010-03-13 08:02 am (UTC)
Good to hear from/about you. I have been wondering how you are doing and hoping you are well. Sounds like there has been a lot of change and sounds like you are holding up admirably. *take good care and hugs*
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[User Picture]From: feileacan23
2010-03-13 01:42 pm (UTC)
YAY we get to hear from you!!! I know I am just as bad at updating people on my life. But yay for you!

Good for you for taking the step toward improving your job situation. I'm glad you're reasonably happy there. And as far as living alone, I can understand how that's strange. I've never lived alone. On paper I had my own dorm room, but in reality Jeremy was there every day and night, not that living in a dorm is living alone in anyway, but it's the closest I came to it.

I hope we get to see you in April for the 30th!
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[User Picture]From: shironiku
2010-03-13 06:20 pm (UTC)
You're as bad at keeping people up to date with your life as I am about checking in on people like you. I mean, the last time I talked to you was when I accidentally called you instead of the other Kurt! Glad to hear you're doing okay, though.

Oh, and for the record, when I said "you'll be back" prior to the big move, I meant BOTH of you. Don't go screwing with my powers of prophesy, man. Put down the patchouli oil and come back to civilization!
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[User Picture]From: 6sixofswords6
2010-03-13 06:57 pm (UTC)
Let me echo this, Kurt. COME BACK TO US!!!
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[User Picture]From: pasajera
2010-03-14 07:36 am (UTC)
No No No, now that Kurt has come to the Land of Flowing Beards and Yummy Nutritional Yeast, there's no going back! *grin*
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[User Picture]From: gbone
2010-03-13 07:18 pm (UTC)
I hope things get better for you.
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[User Picture]From: rylliana
2010-03-16 06:11 am (UTC)
While I have no business in making this post, I'm glad you'll be posting more. I'm never on AIM anymore and you haven't been for a while either, but I miss talking to my friends so it's good to hear from you.
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[User Picture]From: rylliana
2010-03-16 06:11 am (UTC)
PS~where in AZ?
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[User Picture]From: speedball
2010-03-16 02:15 pm (UTC)
Man, I keep doing that. It's actually Needles, California. For some reason, I keep thinking that's in Arizona, but I'm wrong...
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[User Picture]From: silverlily81
2010-03-20 03:58 am (UTC)
No, you were right. It's Mohave Valley, AZ.

Crap, now I'm the one who sucks at updating.

*hugs* Hope to see you soon.
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