|Not so good stuff from this weekend...
||[Dec. 16th, 2000|07:14 pm]
Hi, Erik. You have a pretty good idea of what this entry is about...|
So, Erik and Riki were friends long before I came on the scene. But, since Riki became interested in me, Erik's noticed a change in their relationship. Before I asked her out (these are actually Erik's words, not mine...), Erik says that he felt like she was using him as a way of getting to me (Those aren't his exact words, but they're close...). Now that she and I are together, Erik feels like their friendship is fading away. Actually, his exact words were "I feel like I'm disappearing."
This has been exacerbated by other events of yesterday evening that are actually too long to go into, but basically, Riki isn't treating Erik with the respect he's due, and Erik's so afraid of losing his friendship with her that he's afraid to talk to her about it...(Cue the irony...) So, he wants me to discuss it with her.
Now, I do feel partially responsible, since it was her interest in me, and our burgeoning relationship that started this whole thing. I also think part of the reason this is an issue right now is because of the fact that I'm dependent on Erik for a place to stay and rides most places during the weekends that I'm out there. But there's a part of me that says, "This is between him and her. Getting in the middle of this is just going to get me in trouble with one or the other, or both."
I don't want Riki to give up any friendships for me, especially with people that are my friends too. That's just silly. But, is this something I should talk to her about, or should this be Erik's responsibility?
Speak, oh wise one...(That's you, self!)
What would Brian Boitano do?
If you're wondering who Abner is in the comments below, that's Erik's old alias in this journal (Hey, he chose it, not me...). Similarly, Lucy is how I used to refer to Riki here.