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Changing subjects drastically... [Dec. 25th, 2000|02:31 pm]
Kurt Onstad
Well, I'm considering telling Riki about this journal. (Well, actually, she knows I keep a journal. I just don't think she's caught on yet to the fact that it's online, although I've given a couple of subtle clues...) I'd explain it to her first before showing it to her...And, I'd probably remove my memories, not that I've accessed them at all anyways...In fact, those are going away now...Gone.

So, is there any reason why I shouldn't tell her about it now that any of you can think of? I feel like a relationship should be based on honesty, and leaving this from her is dishonest. But, I'd like to hear other's thoughts on the subject. Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?

Kurt Onstad
His life is an open webpage...
Lucy actually posts for the first time here. Lucy is actually Riki. And Abner is referred to as well, which is actually Erik.

[User Picture]From: self
2000-12-25 09:45 pm (UTC)

You know I welcome chaos...

I'm not sure if having her here would affect what I write in your journal. Thus far, I haven't been burdened with trying to protect anyone's feelings. My advice to you only holds value because I'm completely detatched from the situation. Maintaining that is going to be tricky.

Honestly, I don't see how it can do anything but affect what we write. You're using this right now as sort of a relationship by committee, organizing your thoughts and feelings before you go in to make your presentation. You won't be able to do that anymore. Even if you continue posting exactly as you have been, the fact that she's reading every entry lends an immediacy which changes the nature of the action itself.

Bringing her in is probably for the best, as it takes away that safety net and restores a layer of intimacy. She gets your thoughts directly, unfiltered by consensus opinion. Whether or not that's a good thing is entirely up to you. =)

Good or bad, that decision will bring changes. But I'm all for changes.

Nonetheless, I do believe in fallback options... Should the journal freak her out:
  • You can minimize the relationship entries and try to find other things to talk about here.
    (unnatural, but effective. except, of course, you have nothing else to talk about here...)
  • You can post relationship entries in "friends-only" view and refuse to add her to that list.
    (asking for trouble, really)
  • You can take the relationship entries to private e-mails.
    (no clue how that'd go over)
Anyway... I've been up for about 48 hours now, and am way too tired to come up with a decent conclusion. But maybe some of these thoughts will prove useful.


I sleep now.
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