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Yes, that's interesting...Uh-huh...Okay...Yeah...Oh shut up already! [Jun. 23rd, 2002|12:17 pm]
Kurt Onstad
I'm probably not completely without sin on this one, but here I go casting stones anyway...

A new addition to our little group in AOKP is a kid named Bobby. He's a nice enough guy, but he's one of those people who doesn't realize when he's talking about something that no one else in the group is interested in. It's like he's a little over-enthusiastic about fitting in, and if he just calmed down, and went with the flow, he'd do so just fine. But, he's so gung-ho that he can get annoying. I know I'm not the only one that feels this way. Should I try to talk to him, and offer him a little advice, or should I just shut up and let nature take its course?


[User Picture]From: dragonpookie
2002-06-23 01:01 pm (UTC)

Tommyomega and DragonPookie agree...

If nature takes it's course, someone's gonna beat that kid
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[User Picture]From: speedball
2002-06-23 01:15 pm (UTC)

Well, in the interest of avoiding violence...

Next occasion (Court, Star Wars game, whatever...), remind me that I'm taking Bobby home, and I'll talk with him on the way there. I've been in his shoes before, and had other friends in his place, so I think I can make him realize what he's doing and how to avoid it...

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[User Picture]From: technomonkey
2002-06-23 11:56 pm (UTC)

I KNOW I'm not without sin in this area...

.....but I gotta agree with you. I like Bobby, but he can be quite annoying at times, and it's probably because he's trying so hard to impress us. At least, I'd rather think that's it than that he's just an annoying person. Anyway, I can't offer advice. I'd appreciate if you talked to him about it, because obviously we'd all benefit, but I can't give advice that I'm not willing or able to take myself. See, I've felt this way about him since the first time I met him, and knew someone should talk to him about it, but never did. Furthermore, I doubt if I ever would.

HOWEVER.....you may wish to talk this one over with Rich. Aside from Maire, Rich is closest to him in the group (he is his older sibling, after all), and he might have a better idea of how to talk to him about this without really hurting his feelings than you or I would. Add to that the fact that Bobby....er, Robert, as he'd prefer to be called....does hold a certain amount of respect for Rich, so his words might have more affect than ours. Or he may want to stay the hell out of it. But you should probably give him the opportunity to make that decision.

Or you may want to involve as few people in this as possible. You don't want to drive him away from the group either, and if he feels attacked ("So far, four of us have talked this over and we all get annoyed by you when you do this"), that's likely to be what'll happen. We still want him around, after all. Just more....relaxed and natural.

Like I say, I have no idea on the "right way" to proceed. But I back your standpoint, and I'll back your decision on a course of action, whatever it may be. Please keep us updated as to how this turns out.... :-)
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