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First day of chat work... [Oct. 16th, 2000|01:41 pm]
Kurt Onstad
But, as I suspected, not actually doing chat right now. But, I'm now at a station with a much bigger monitor for the PC (I'm thinking 19"). This is cool...

Totally dead day today, phone-wise so far. I've gotten one ghost call (where there's no one on the other line), and that's it. So, plenty of time to add to my journal.

Thinking that if the MTA strike finally ends (although, no real sign of that happening yet), that I'd show up Friday and surprise Megan. Just to let her know that I can be there for her right now during this rough time. But, part of me says "Too clingy." I'm completely unable to look at it objectively. So, I throw it out there to all of you (Yes, all three...). Does that strike you as romantic, caring, desperate, clingy? Where would you put this on the spectrum?

Kurt Onstad
Of course, it's a moot point, if the buses don't run...

[User Picture]From: self
2000-10-17 11:15 am (UTC)

Pitfalls Ahead.

Surprises are bad right now. If you just show up, she's going to feel obligated to be happy about it, and bad about herself if
a) she's not ready to do so, or
b) your entrance distracts her from a suitable mourning period.

You can surprise her with a phone call (well, in a phone call, anyway. You should probably have shifted away from the impersonal online chat enough that she's not at all surprised by a call from you). Let her know that you're able to get out there, and ask whether she can use the company. This gives her the all-important option of saying no.

Again, this is strictly worst-case-scenerio, but if you make her uncomfortable or guilty, defensive instincts will flare up and she could easily conclude that you're there to take advantage of her in her moment of weakness. She's not at her most rational, and that's a two edged sword. If she does go that route, your life will abruptly suck. Don't expect mutual friends to defend you, or even take your side.

So, yeah. "Clingy" is the least of your worries. =)
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[User Picture]From: speedball
2000-10-17 03:02 pm (UTC)

Danger! Danger, Kurt Onstad!

Yeah, you can always come up with the worst case scenario, can't you? Okay. So, next time I talk to her, I find out when it's safe to call her (haven't actually called her yet, because of how late I get home, and because of what was going on with her grandmother), and ask her if she wants me to come out. The MTA seems to have come to some sort of agreement, and buses should be running again by Friday, so I may be able to do this...But, you're right. Giving her the option to say no is probably the best thing...Although I doubt she will, if I mention statistics tutoring... :)

Kurt Onstad
Will be glad to give his bad knee a rest...
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