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Happy Random Demarcation of Time Passing! [Jan. 1st, 2003|08:17 pm]
Kurt Onstad
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I hope everyone's been enjoying month four of 10 A.K. (After Kurt. That's when I changed my name for all intents and purposes.) Or, the beginning of 2003 A.D., however you prefer to think of it...

I went to Tom and Cindy's house for New Years Eve. Had a lot of fun with the two of them, Josh and Megan, John and Michelle, and Anne. We played games and just hung out and talked until about 3am. We watched the ball drop right at midnight, but that really wasn't the focus of the evening, like it seems to be with many other New Years parties. I was just fine with that...

Today, Josh and I hung out with Tom and Cindy for most of the day, chatting and playing games. I finally got to hear Cindy's views on my relationship with Amy, since she made a very interesting comment at a party over at Seth's house last week regarding it. Her basic thoughts (which she says Seth and others have echoed) is that Amy comes across as a very dominating person, and she is afraid that I will get lost in the relationship and become "Amy's husband." Ironically, she also mentioned the feeling that Amy took me for granted, which seems somewhat contradictory to me. Obviously, I don't agree with her thoughts on this, but I respect her (and Tom's) opinion a lot when it comes to relationships, because she and Tom in my eyes, have a successful relationship, and I appreciate her sharing her feelings, and giving me things to think about (although, most of what the conversation prompted me to think about I had already thought about...).

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From: (Anonymous)
2003-01-04 05:03 pm (UTC)

Marriage isn't a word, it's a sentence.

This is Cindy who doesn't post on live journal and all that jazz.....
Kurt did a relatively good job of summarizing what I actually said (wow, a few certain someone's I know could take lessons). I just wanted to add that I do honestly wish Kurt and Amy the best and I hope things work out. The question that I really hope sticks out in his mind (and hers) is this: If you are so in love that you want to run off and be married NOW, why not wait until later? You are already convinced that your relationship is the ONE and will last. If it is good now, won't it be just as good then? Or maybe even better because the relationship has stood the test of time and you can thumb your nose at all the nay-sayers (myself included). Take the time to really get to know each other, not just the romance of a weekend relationship when everyone's relaxed. Learn about the little daily frustrations in each other's lives and how to deal with them. I hope you have had at least one good fight because I'd hate to think that you are getting married without having experienced each other's pain as well as the happy moments. A marriage is more than just two people who love each other and like being around each other. The success of a marriage depends not upon its ability to stay strong through the good, that's easy. It's the ability to weather the storms and rough spots together. I have the impression (which may be wrong) that everything has been hunky-dory and that's what's making it so great. Give yourselves the time to see both sides and then make a decision.
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